Seniors Outreach News October 2, 2013

Grief is a very normal, expected reaction, experienced by all of us when the loss of something we hold dear is taken from us. The loss of employment, the loss of a favorite family pet, the loss of the home due to flooding, and the loss of mobility due age are some examples. However, the greatest loss we experience is the loss of a loved one who has become a part of ourselves, a part of our identity. Learning to cope with this experience is difficult since grieving is hard work and experience. If we don't work through our grief and mourn that part of us which has gone, the effects may be devastating.  Unresolved grief leaves us susceptible to many negative issues and even illness.  When we experience a deep loss we must grieve.  Grieving is a process with recognizable stages.  Kubler-Ross suggested five stages - denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These stages may be combined or minimized in order to make sense of things.
There is no timetable for grieving and getting on with one's life. The stages do not necessarily follow one another sequentially but are rather fluid, moving backwards and forwards, sometimes circling around and around several times, visiting earlier stages as needed. For example, anger and depression are often overcome, only to pop up again when we don't expect it. We might blame our departed loved one, or God - (He can handle it) or family members, or take it out on other things? It is common to punish ourselves in order to gain control of the pain.
No matter how the stages are presented, or how the stages are followed by the one seeking relief, the heart hurts. You are not alone. Come share with others who need you as much as you need them.  Seniors Outreach is offering a 12-week Grief and Loss Support group, so don't walk this alone. If you or someone you know could use this support group, please give us a call at 403-443-2555.
Also, don't forget the special Thanksgiving pot-luck lunch on Tuesday, Oct. 1 at the CommUnity Drop-In Centre at noon.  Great food, and great fellowship. The next Calgary Philharmonic Orchestra open rehearsal is on Thursday, October 3rd so don't miss hearing Wagner's Ring Without Words. If you feel like a good laugh, come out and join the 100 Years of Music variety show at the Popovich Dinner Theatre trip on Sunday, October 20. For more information, please contact Seniors Outreach at 403-443-2555.